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When your cat is snuggled up on the couch, you might want to give them kisses to show how much you love them. But do cats like kisses, or should you keep your lips to yourself?
Experts say it depends! Whether or not a cat will enjoy kisses depends on their personality and their relationship with us, says Susan Nilson, pet behavior specialist and founder of The Cat and Dog House.
Keep reading to find out if your cat likes kisses and learn other ways to show them you care.
Do Cats Like When We Kiss Them?
Nilson says if your cat shows love by rubbing against you or cuddling, they might enjoy kisses. But some cats could get scared if you get too close.
Watch their body language for clues to know if your cat likes kisses.
| Signs Your Cat Likes Kisses | Signs Your Cat Doesn’t Like Kisses |
| Purring | Growling |
| Relaxed body posture | Stiff body posture |
| Leaning toward your touch | Leaning away from you |
| Neutral ears and tail | Twitching tail |
| Slow-blinking | Pulled back “airplane” ears |
| Kneading | Twitching ears |
If your cat seems annoyed, don’t try to kiss them. Nilson says they might scratch or swipe at you if you ignore their warnings. Instead, give them some space.
But if your cat likes kisses, give them a smooch!
How Do Cats Show Us Their Love?
We may have a language barrier with cats. But while they aren’t big on words of affirmation, your cat can still show their love in many ways, including the following.
- Headbutts: Cats have special scent glands in their faces. When a cat headbutts you, they share their scent, which is a big deal in the cat world.
- Grooming: Your cat might lick you as their way of giving “kisses.” Cats who live together often groom each other to show they care.
- Following you: It might seem funny when your cat follows you everywhere, even to the bathroom, but it’s their way of asking for attention.
- Bringing gifts: Your cat might bring you a mouse or other “gift” to show they care, even if it’s not something you want.
- Slow blinking: When a cat blinks slowly at you, it’s like a human smile. It means they feel happy and relaxed around you.
- Kneading: Cats like to knead with their paws when they’re relaxed. If they do this on your lap, it means they’re enjoying your company.
How to Show Your Cat You Love Them
If your cat doesn’t seem to understand the love behind your kisses, or doesn’t like them, don’t worry. You can still bridge the language barrier and show your cat that you care by:
- Gently petting: If your cat likes being touched, pet them gently around their chin, cheeks, or the base of their tail. These spots have scent glands, and your cat will enjoy them.
- Head butting: Instead of a kiss, Nilson says you can gently headbutt your cat back when they headbutt you. It’s a way to communicate with cats who might not like being picked up or touched too much.
- Playing: Playing with a wand or laser pointer is a fun way to bond with your cat and let them use their hunting skills.
- Returning the slow blink: Cats can blink slowly back at you if you do it first. It’s like a smile for them, so try it next time to share some good vibes with your cat.
- Giving them food: Many cats love treats! Giving your cat their favorite snacks can help them feel happy when they’re with you.
- Building a safe environment: Cats need places to hide and feel secure, like cubbies or perches. Make sure your cat has their food bowls, a litter box, and toys to feel comfortable.
- Giving them space: Even though you might want to cuddle your cat all the time, it’s important to give them space. Let your cat come to you when they’re ready for attention.
As you build trust with your cat, Nilson says they might become happy and comfortable enough to enjoy your kisses someday!
