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All dog parents want their pups to feel happy and safe. But sometimes, we might not realize that simple things around us can scare them. Big fears, like thunder and fireworks, are easy to spot, but smaller things often go unnoticed. Dogs might be afraid of everyday things like noisy appliances, strangers coming over, sudden sounds, or even some things we do.
If your dog is scared a lot—even if you don’t mean to scare them—it can make them lose trust in you. If you ignore their fears, it might lead to problems with their health or behavior. That’s why it’s important to notice what makes your dog nervous and try to avoid it. This helps them feel safe and makes your bond stronger.
Below, we’ll go over ten common things that might be stressing your dog out. We’ll also talk about how to handle these fears in a way that keeps your dog calm.
1. Loud Noises or Quick Movements
Dogs have amazing hearing, so it makes sense that loud sounds, like thunder or fireworks, can scare them. Even normal household noises, like doors slamming, blenders whirring, fire alarms, or people yelling, can make them jumpy.
Quick movements can be scary, too. A young child running around or a sudden round of high-fives can surprise dogs—especially if they’re not used to being around lots of activity.
If your dog is afraid of certain sounds, you can slowly help them get used to these noises over time. Also, try to keep your movements and noise levels calmer around the house.
2. Improper Handling
Handling dogs too roughly or in ways they don’t like can scare them. Things like pulling on their leash, picking them up quickly, or petting too hard can make them uncomfortable.
It’s important to respect a dog’s boundaries. Some things that feel loving to us, like hugging, kissing, or touching their face, might feel scary to them.
“Forcing attention, leaning over them, or putting your face close to theirs can make dogs feel trapped or threatened,” explains Melissa Bartoli, a certified dog trainer for Abandoned Pet Rescue.
Some of the spots dogs like being pet include their:
- Back
- Chest
- Belly
- Hips
- Chin
Watching how your dog reacts can help you figure out where they like to be pet the most.
3. Too Much Alone Time
When some dogs are left alone, even for a short time, they can feel very anxious and upset. Dogs with separation anxiety might panic, bark a lot, whine, or even chew up things around the house when you’re gone.
There are ways to help a dog feel better about being alone:
- Take it slow: Start by leaving your dog alone for just a few minutes, then slowly make the time longer as they get more comfortable. This helps them feel braver over time.
- Make it calming: Play soft music or white noise to help them relax. You can also try using pheromone collars or sprays that release calming scents.
- Give them fun toys: Chew toys, lick mats, snuffle mats, stuffed Kongs, or puzzle toys can keep your dog busy and happy while you’re away.
- Get expert help: If you’re having trouble, working with a professional dog trainer can make a big difference.
4. Too Many New People or Pets At Once
Some dogs feel scared when they meet a lot of new people or animals all at once. Meeting too many new faces can be overwhelming for them.
To help your dog, start by introducing just one new person at a time. This gives them a chance to get used to new smells and learn that the new person isn’t a threat.
If your dog is really shy, try introducing new people outside, where it feels less like someone’s “territory.” Watch your dog’s body language to see if they seem uncomfortable, and never force them to meet someone. Keep these introductions short, and have some training treats handy!
5. Lack of Routine
Dogs do best when they have a routine. Big changes, like a different schedule, a new family member, or moving to a new home, can make them feel nervous and confused.
To help your dog feel safe, Bartoli recommends feeding, walking, and playing with your dog at the same times every day.
“Consistency helps dogs feel safe and know what to expect,” she explains. It’s also important to be consistent with training methods, caregivers, and even house guests.
If a big change is coming, like a new baby or a move, introduce these changes slowly. Let your dog explore a new space little by little or get used to new things one at a time.
6. Harmful Training Methods
Using harsh training methods, like yelling, physical punishment, or using shock or bark collars, can really scare your dog. These tactics can also damage your dog’s trust in you, says Dr. Chinonyerem Ukweni, a veterinarian at MyGoToVet.
When dogs experience pain or fear during training, they might become nervous, scared, or even aggressive. This can hurt your bond with them and lead to long-term problems like anxiety or depression.
Instead, try using positive reinforcement. This means rewarding your dog with treats, praise, or playtime when they do something good. It’s a kinder and more effective way to train, and it helps build trust between you and your dog.
7. Rough Play or Scary Toys
Some games, like tug-of-war or wrestling, can be too intense for sensitive dogs—especially if they’ve had bad experiences with rough play. Loud noises, sudden moves, and the excitement can make playtime feel scary instead of fun.
If your dog seems nervous with certain toys or games, try these gentler options instead:
- Puzzle toys: These keep your dog’s mind busy without the need for rough play.
- Hide and seek: This game lets your dog use their natural instincts to find you in a fun, calm way.
- Snuffle mats: These mats let your dog sniff around for treats, making playtime feel safe and relaxing.
8. Baths or Grooming
Many dogs are scared of baths or grooming. Bathing and grooming have lots of strange sights, sounds, and feelings. Dogs might be afraid because of bad experiences, like rough handling or strong smells. Some dogs also get nervous if they weren’t used to grooming when they were younger.
Here are some tips to help your dog feel better during bathing/grooming:
- Stay calm: Speak in a soft voice and handle your dog gently.
- Go slow: Start with short grooming sessions and slowly make them longer. You don’t have to trim every nail or brush every spot in one go. Shorter sessions can help your dog feel more confident.
- Use rewards: Give them treats, praise, or their favorite toys during grooming. You could also spread dog-safe peanut butter on a lick mat to keep them busy.
- Avoid tight restraints: Tight muzzle or neck restraints can make dogs feel trapped.
- See a professional: If your dog remains overly fearful, hiring a professional groomer who understands dog behavior can provide a more relaxed experience.
9. Stressful Places
Going to places like the vet or a boarding kennel can be scary for dogs. These places have strange noises, unfamiliar people, and other animals that may also be stressed. Even the car ride there can make some dogs nervous because of the small space, strange sounds, and movement.
To help your dog feel better, try these tips:
- Practice short trips: Start with quick car rides that don’t go to the vet. This helps your dog see that the car can be a good place.
- Bring comfort items: Take along a favorite blanket or toy to make your dog feel more secure.
- Use treats and praise: Reward your dog for staying calm with treats and kind words.
10. Missed Body Language Cues
Dogs show when they feel scared or uncomfortable through their body language and actions. Here are some signs that your dog might be feeling nervous:
- Tail-tucking
- Flattened ears
- Increased vocalizations, including whining and howling
- Hiding
- Shaking
- Licking the air
- Avoiding eye contact or “whale eye”
Our experts say that if you notice these signs, it’s important to help your dog before their fears get worse.
By watching your dog’s body language, you can decide how to help them. This might mean removing something that’s scaring them, taking them to a quiet place, or giving them treats to help distract them.
How to Help Your Dog Feel Safe
It’s hard to see your dog scared, but there are ways to help them feel better.
First, Bartoli suggests creating a safe space for your dog, like a cozy bed or a quiet area where they won’t be bothered. Sticking to a daily routine is also important, as it helps reduce anxiety over time.
Remember, dogs can sense our emotions, so stay calm and positive. Use a soft voice and give your dog plenty of treats.
Building trust takes time. Let your dog set the pace and don’t force them to face their fears. Dr Ukweni says this can make their anxiety worse.
Finally, show your dog that you are their protector. Pay attention to their fear signs and respond gently. This shows you care, helping strengthen your bond.
