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True or False: Letting Your Dog in the Bed is Ruining Your Relationship

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True or False: Letting Your Dog in the Bed is Ruining Your Relationship

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Dog and human relationships are evolving. Instead of referring to themselves as “dog owners” people increasingly consider themselves “pet parents.” Traditional boundaries are shifting. One of those changes? More and more people let their dogs sleep in bed beside them.

So, is letting your dog into your bed a good idea? What’s the best way to go about it? A 21st century dog owner should consider the risks involved, from basic cleanliness to romantic problems.

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Why We Love Sharing Sleep with Dogs

Not only are you having a sleepover with your best friend every night, they’re like a hot water bottle that never cools: perfect for a cold winter night. Those are just two of the enjoyable benefits of your dog sleeping in the bed. The trend is certainly catching on.

A protective dog also adds a sense of safety. Their proximity can create a real or perceived sense of security when it comes to intruders or unexpected problems in the night. Some dog owners report that the rhythmic breathing of their dog also serves as a sleep agent that helps calm them and whisk them off to dreamland.

Your Dog: Sleep and Obedience Issues

Your dog might be restless and wake you up, sure. But also, you might disturb your dog’s sleep. Your movements—rolling over, tossing and turning—during the night may wake the dog as well, and could be linked to their irritability and other temperament issues.

Additionally, there are obedience and aggressiveness issues to consider. As pack animals, dogs will view the bed as a very special place. Being invited up on the bed and sleeping side by side may build trust, but it also levels the playing field. Once the dog decides the bed belongs to them, they may feel like they’re the ones allowing you on it.

This is why several pet experts suggest that allowing your dog in the bed be a special invitation, not expectation.

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Effects on Your Health: Sleep and Allergies

Although you may love having your dog sleep in your bed, make sure to prioritise your sleep, which is linked to good overall health. If your dog is disturbing it, that’s problematic.

Allergies are another consideration. Many dog owners put up with mild allergies, ranging from pet dander to other environmental factors dogs bring into the home. While this might not be an issue throughout the day, time to “detox” during the night—breathing easy without the proximity of those allergens—may be vital to long-term health. In these cases, some recommend that your bedroom be completely pet-free.

Also, transferrable pet-to-person illnesses are a consideration. These may include,

  • Fleas and ticks
  • Chagas disease
  • Ringworms
  • Pasteurella

Sleeping with your dog is not recommend for those with young children, or people whose immune systems might be compromised, such as elderly people.

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Dogs in Bed: Effects on Your Human Relationships

Naturally, a human partner may have the above concerns about sleep, health, and more…or they simply might not be comfortable having a third party in a sleeping space they see as reserved for human intimacy and bonding.

Dog lovers know that a canine companion can be a relationship builder. Couples have even met at dog parks and bonded over playtime with their furry little mates. However, letting the dog in the bed could create issues. Psychotherapist and couples’ counselling specialist Donna Pall states that “dogs can become an impediment to, and a substitution for, intimacy, and frequently incite jealousy among couples.”

For a new relationship, she points out that letting the dog in the bed communicates that they’re your primary focus, and not your partner.

Even if a couple can juggle sleep, intimacy, etc. with a dog allowed on the bed, a key issue is not letting your dog come between you. Literally.

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The Bottom Line

Sharing a bed with your dog comes down to personal preference. If it’s working for you and your partner, then great! Also, make sure you let your dog sitter know if your dog is or isn’t allowed on the bed when you go on holiday. Rover.com has lots of sitters who offer dog boarding throughout the UK so next time you need a dog lover to take care of your buddy we’ve got your back!

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