Between a ROTT and a hard place. Should we rehome him?
And if so - how can we handle it emotionally due to the kids?
We've had our rottie for 3 years. He is the smartest, most gentle-loving dog you'd ever meet. I never wanted a big dog (or one that sheds) AT ALL, but he was a compromise I made for my husband - it's his favorite breed. He's had them before, has a tat of one etc.
Well, husband and I separated and came to a point of divorce after 10 years.. lawyers had the papers ready. Then at the last moment, a miracle happened and our marriage was reconciled. However, we still have the old house and I'm renting my house (so two homes). Husbands always here but our rottie isn't fixed and has been marking his terrirory a lot, plus the excessive shedding is too much for me (please don't judge. It's OKAY that I'm a clean freak and want to be respectful to my landlord). My husband can't afford to get him fixed and I can't afford him having accidents here, but we can't provide daily care from a sitter OR leave him home alone when my husband is at my house.. which is 6 days a week.
My husband has no desire to walk him etc and I cant walk him alone because of his size and if something were to ever happen, I wouldn't be able to control him because of his strength. He is well-trained, but it's not safe or smart. Mentally, my husband struggles at times like taking care of his house which is in really bad condition all around etc. so caring for a dog especially one of that size is really hard for him at times.
We don't want to get rid of him because of the kids but he's becoming increasingly stressful in the day-to-day things, as sweet as he is. Even bringing him to parks and so on when we have the kids or their friends, there's no room. Hes HUGE.
I also dont want the burden of rehoming him to fall on me and cause my husband & kids pain. Like ultimately, I'm getting the blame. I have to let it sink into my head that hes my husbands responsibility and his care or lack of care falls on him. I've been codependant in the past and have worked through a lot during our long separation and just don't want to go back to that thinking.
Sorry to ramble but we feel 100% STUCK. We do love him, DEARLY even though we weren't using very much wisdom in deciding to get him. Any KIND advice appreciated...