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Person at home during Drop In Visits???

I am currently doing a weeks worth of "drop in visits" and right before the family left town they told me that their son was staying home but would probably be out most of the time (at work). He is not! He is always home and it makes me very uncomfortable. He's in his 20's, smells horrible, is dirty and I think he is a drug user. I am having to ask my husband to come and sit in the car during my visits.... has anyone else had any problems like this?

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Deb A.

I've experienced adult kids at home while caring for the mother's dogs (she really didn't trust that any family members would do exactly what she wanted re. treats, length of walk etc.). I nicely communicated what I observed in combination with dog updates. Luckily for me, they weren't doing anything that concerning. A camera was mounted to view the kitchen and entryway, and members of the home finger pointed blame regularly. One update I'd text might be something like, the pups and I returned from a nice walk (and some other details). I see that the camera has been covered with a dish towel while we were out. Another one was something like (name of adult kid) is having a few friends over this afternoon. They're spending time on the patio. The gates to keep the pups downstairs (when unsupervised) had been removed when I arrived. The pups and I are downstairs now. I noticed two empty wine bottles, which appear to be from your recent trip, on the counter.

For another home, while she was in the process of moving, I periodically checked in on her home (her pups were with her) but she permitted someone in their 20's to stay there. In that circumstance, photos and videos of how her home and possessions were being left (where it looked like possible drug use) communicated far more and better than I could be expressed.

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Serena D.

I have done drop-ins while a household member was present, and haven't had any issues with it so far. knock on wood Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Your safety comes first.

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I just finished one where their son was home sometimes. But this particular person set off my internal alarms and I can’t wait till this sitting is over.

Amber W.

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Lenka L.

It can happen. Obviously the family couldn't trust him, and you noticed why... Take your husband IN with you, do not let him sit outside and make sure to let the family know his son is home, and for your safety you will have your family member coming in with you. Always make sure you are safe.

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Erica M.

I have had a few drop in visits where someone else was at the house. The owners for whatever reason either did not want to inconvenience or did not trust the other person to watch after their dog. It never had bothered me but granted I think your situation is a little different. It is only for 30 minutes (I am sure it can not be that bad). A suggestion would be to ask the owner if it would be alright if you took the dog for a walk or if you played with him/her outside during your visit. (This way you are not just sitting inside the house with the son and the dog) . Good Luck!

If you are taking your Husband inside with you, make sure you let the owner know ahead of time and that she is okay with someone else entering her home.

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When he has two friends with them and they are all drinking whiskey, 30 minutes can feel like three hours Lol

Amber W.

oh gosh that would seem like forever. I would tell the O that you are uncomfortable having 3 men drinking Whiskey next to you, during the drop in visits. (She may not know what the son is up to) but none the less Ask if you can walk the dog for 30 mins/play outside? See what she says? Good Luck!

Erica M.

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Jill A.

. Don't worry little is doing great and is such a sweetie. However, I am uncomfortable being in the house at times to the point that I have asked my husband to accompany and sit in the driveway (since he does not have permission to enter). An example of this was yesterday when there were 3 men drinking whiskey while I am there. During times like these I would like permission to have my husband enter the house so that I am not alone with strangers, to take to the dog park, or to shop at . " " data-refresh-url="/community/question/34622/?answer=34651#post-id-34651" data-editor-type="markdown" data-validator="askbot.validators.answerValidator" >

Be open and honest with the pet owners.
State facts and explain that you are uncomfortable. Offer options. When sending snapshots of the dog, sometimes include what is happening in the background as part of the picture.

Your safety is important. If you cant work out a safe solution with the pet owner contact Rover support and ask for help. You should not be going into an unsafe environment!!!!!!

Here is an example of what I might send..... "Good morning. I hope your trip is going well. I just want to touch base with you regarding my drop in visits with <dog name=""> . Don't worry little <dog nickname=""> is doing great and is such a sweetie.
However, I am uncomfortable being in the house at times to the point that I have asked my husband to accompany and sit in the driveway (since he does not have permission to enter). An example of this was yesterday when there were 3 men drinking whiskey while I am there. During times like these I would like permission to have my husband enter the house so that I am not alone with strangers, to take <dog> to the dog park, or to shop at <name a="" specific="" dog="" friendly="" store="" restaurant="" such="" as="" lowes="" or="" half="" price="" books="">. "

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This is a great response. I'm going to save it and hope I never need it.

Cynthia F.

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