Someone leaving dog alone overnight for a month with morning/night feeding/walks. Is this okay?

asked 2019-03-13 16:02:48 -0500

I have a friend of a friend who went out of town for a month, and is leaving his young dog in his apartment alone. He has friends coming by morning and night to feed/walk the dog. He has mentioned the dog has separation anxiety. This doesn't seem right to me -- it seems cruel -- but I'm not sure if that's an overreaction. Not sure yet what I can do, maybe offer to bring the dog to stay with me for the month. I live in a different city. I'm wondering if I should intervene and ask if I could bring the dog here (which might be more stressful for the dog?) or just leave it alone and the dog will survive. I realize since it's not my dog, it's not my business, but I also wanted to hear if other people think this is cruel for this dog. Thanks.

UPDATE: Apparently someone beat me to it and is actually going to dogsit at my friend's apartment while he is out of town. I imagine I'm not the only one who was concerned by his behavior and I'm glad a closer friend was able to step in. Good news.

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hi, I feel the same way you do. I think a dog with separation anxiety has a problem being alone in the first place. If you know the person well I dont think it is a bad idea to offer to take the dog to your house. You can say you are trying to make it easier for the owner and then only one person

Deborah S.'s profile image Deborah S.  ( 2019-03-14 00:23:09 -0500 ) edit

has to take care of the dog. I personally would offer that, i dont think it is right to eave the dog alone that long Especially with separation anxiety, which the owner might not even be trying to treat if he is willing to leave the dog alone.

Deborah S.'s profile image Deborah S.  ( 2019-03-14 00:25:55 -0500 ) edit

Yay!!! That is fantastic! The best solution for the dog for sure!

Lisa H.'s profile image Lisa H.  ( 2019-03-17 17:46:04 -0500 ) edit

Thanks for the update. I am relieved to hear the owner's circle of friends showed more care than he did. Dogsitting at his place is really the best thing for the pooch.

Karen R.'s profile image Karen R.  ( 2019-03-17 18:51:08 -0500 ) edit

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answered 2019-12-12 08:29:16 -0500

no, it is not safe for our pets, one of my friends has done this so his pet was nearly dead but now he is overprotective about his pets. he had a chance to go to abroad to study but he refused to go there and continue the same course online. he is doing https://www.theccm.co.uk/courses-page/nvq-level-6-construction-site-management/ (NVQ Level 6 Construction Site Management) course online at https://www.theccm.co.uk/ (College of Contract Management). all because of his pets

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answered 2019-03-13 23:48:07 -0500

The dog will survive (in most cases) but we must understand that dogs are herd animals, they need to have contact with other living beings. You mention that you have separation anxiety, for the animal to stay alone can produce a huge panic and lead you to do things that could hurt you or worse, I have seen it in several cases, even a dog jumped out the panic window in which I enter. In my case, I would offer to take him but that is very personal. If you finally get it, do not worry because at first you may be reluctant, give it space, get used to the new environment, in the long run it will be better for it. As you say, it is not your problem but that you demonstrate that concern for the animal says a lot about you.

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answered 2019-03-14 17:20:05 -0500

If the dog already has separation anxiety, this guy is ensuring the dog will always have it and would likely get worse. With severe cases, dogs become destructive and will attempt to chew their way out. It isn't a matter of just crying and shaking, but destructiveness and actions that could result in physical harm to the dog. He is really being very cruel to the dog leaving it alone for such a long period of time.

MAKE THE OFFER. Talk to your friend. His attitude toward his dog is unconscionable

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Thanks for the input!

Ray M.'s profile image Ray M.  ( 2019-03-14 20:25:08 -0500 ) edit
answered 2019-03-13 23:59:10 -0500

Two visits a day aren't enough for a dog and especially for this long of a period. Personally I think it cruel and may have long term repurcussions with the dog. I unfortunately don't have a solution to offer.

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Thanks for input, though. Much appreciated.

Ray M.'s profile image Ray M.  ( 2019-03-14 01:18:43 -0500 ) edit
answered 2019-03-18 13:28:02 -0500

Leaving your dog by himself overnight can be risky. In the event that an emergency happened (a fire, gas leak, flood, etc.) your dog would be trapped in the house and wouldn't be able to get out.

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answered 2019-03-14 19:59:52 -0500

I completely agree with Karen and Walt, a dog should not be left that much for that long of a period. If he was going to be gone a couple of days drop ins are perfectly reasonable. But leaving him all day and all night with only a couple of short visits per day is not a good idea. If the people caring for him are going to be there most of the day and evening I would say leaving him overnight would be okay. I understand that it's likely a tricky conversation to have, especially if you don't really know the dog owner.

If you are able to care for the dog definitely put the offer out there. A dog that likes to be around people and suffers from separation anxiety would definitely do better staying at someone else's home where there is more human contact than staying along 20 + hours per day. Just be prepared if it has separation anxiety that the dog might exhibit bad behavior especially at first (I've found it's usually peeing in the house). If you are gone during the day make sure you know if the dog is crate trained or is okay roaming free. You might want to do a test of leaving the dog alone for maybe 15 minutes at first to see how he does. Good luck!

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Thanks for your help!

Ray M.'s profile image Ray M.  ( 2019-03-14 20:25:21 -0500 ) edit

Lisa, dogs with separation anxiety do better in their own homes with a house sitter than boarding in a strange place. But in this scenario, I'd take whatever care can be provided over none at all.

Karen R.'s profile image Karen R.  ( 2019-03-14 22:19:20 -0500 ) edit

I do agree that a sitter in the dog's home would be ideal but that was not offered as an option. Based on my experience, boarding with someone who will spend time with the dog is better than someone going to the dog's home a couple of times a day for a few minutes. Most want human contact.

Lisa H.'s profile image Lisa H.  ( 2019-03-17 17:45:18 -0500 ) edit

I was talking in general. You'll notice that I did acknowledge that wasn't an option either in this particular scenario at the time.

Karen R.'s profile image Karen R.  ( 2019-03-17 18:53:14 -0500 ) edit

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