I need help choosing the right dog breed for our family ?

asked 2018-12-26 02:35:30 -0600

Hello Everyone,

I need help choosing the right dog breed for our family. We are a busy family of 3 and we love dogs. My daughter has been asking for a pet dog for a long time. My daughter is kind, caring, gentle and would love to snuggle and play with the pet when she is at home. We have been thinking about it and are now ready for a new member in our family. Since me and my husband work full time, our plan is to leave the puppy in a reliable home based dog day care for the first year. When our dog turns one, she will eventually be at home for 3 days in a week, one day we can work from home and another day we can leave the pet at daycare. Am also thinking about a dog house in the backyard for the future, so the pet can relieve herself when needed. Does this sound like a plan. After a lot of research I have narrowed down my options to Lhasa Apso or mini Goldiepoo.I chose them because they don't require extensive exercise and can stay alone to some extent. Considering our situation, which is the best breed for us? Are there any other breeds that is a best fit for our family. My concern about the Lhasa is that they can be moody at times and not very playful with kids. Among the 2 breeds, I would prefer mini goldiepoo but am worried about their ability to stay alone and separation anxiety. I appreciate your time and help in advance. Thanks!

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answered 2018-12-27 18:58:15 -0600

Based on the fact that you're already quite busy (both adults work outside of the home full time and you have a daughter), I'd suggest that it is in all of your, including the dog's, best interests to Not adopt a puppy. Puppies need a lot of care, attention, and training. The training really needs to be done and continuously reinforced by the dog's leader. It's not a good idea to completely shift this responsibility to a sitter. Sitters often have other pets (their own and clients- which may be at their own homes, meaning the sitter may be gone walking others) that they also have to care for, which competes for the time and attention a puppy would need and puppies are not completely vaccinated or spayed/neutered prior to 1 year old, so there are a lot of risks to their delicate health.

If you were going to adopt, I'd advocate that you and your daughter may want to spend some time at your nearest shelter, talking with the staff, who can share a wealth of information about the breeds you'd consider and you can get to know the dogs by taking walks or having short play sessions with them. My hunch is that they'd also advise you an adult or senior dog would be a far better match than a puppy.

Regarding the concept of leaving the dog out in a yard & dog house, that absolutely is not safe in my area. There are many predators by land and air (coyotes, hawks, and more), some dogs are escape artists who can get around fences and such, and there's a lot of exposure to the environment (inclement weather and things you wouldn't want a dog to eat that could make the dog sick that they could consume when unobserved, not to mention that could start and reinforce a whole bunch of bad habits - separation anxiety barking/howling, territorial protection aggressiveness etc. ) If your concern was limited to the dog relieving itself, better solutions include: having a walker give potty relief, crate training, or either disposable potty sheets or reusable indoor faux grass potty relief station (which can be set up using indoor playpen/gate as needed on easily cleaned floors if needed).

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answered 2019-01-02 05:57:58 -0600

I think it's good to add that a dog/puppy is not a toy to cuddle and snuggle with even though it's so tempting to think your new puppy will want to constantly snuggle and be petted. A puppy. It's a HARD work. They want to pee and poop every hour, in the beginning they want to pee and poop in your home rather than doing their business outside. They will chew on whatever they find. They are demanding and will bark and "bite".
Of course, it also depends on your daughter's age. If she's 6, or if she's 15, it's a big difference. I've met few people lately who all bought their children a puppy, because the child really wanted a puppy, and it was cute for few days but then the puppy didn't want to cuddle, he wanted to pee and poop and eat their shoes and he destroyed their living room when he was left alone. All these puppies ended up in the shelter.

It's good to do a thorough research before you buy/adopt. Or, definitely try to FOSTER A DOG FIRST. Try it for a month and see how it goes :)

I personally would recommend a "lazy" dog, since you both work full time and won't be around during the day. The best bet would be an English bulldog. They LOVE kids. They're lazy and only like to be petted and cuddled. They love to eat and sleep. Also a Boston, A French bulldog are great cuddly pets who don't want to do anything. Golden mixes are hyper and restless. I would stay away from anything that resemble a gooldendoodle or similar.

Good luck! I hope your next pet will be a perfect match for you and your family :)

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“Stay away from Golden anything” made me laugh because my 6 month old golden retriever/German Shepherd cross breed is the most laid back and calm puppy I’ve known. She is so chill. My neighbor has a golden doodle puppy (7 months) and it is a complete spaz. I think it’s the poodle in it.

Kim L.'s profile imageKim L. ( 2019-01-07 03:04:56 -0600 )edit
answered 2019-01-04 07:04:31 -0600

I've had dogs for over 20 years, and now foster a lot of dogs and get to see the differences between various breeds and ages. I usually have dogs come to me that are between 8 weeks-1 year old. Based on the fact that you guys are a busy family, I would not recommend a puppy at all. I adopted a puppy two years ago, and have fostered many puppies in the past few years, and they all require constant training throughout the day, for many months. It took a year for my schnauzer puppy to potty train, and I had to use washable male wraps and dog diapers all the time. Puppies really need a lot of one-on-one training with their family members and a lot of your time. I agree leaving them in daycare for their first year will not help you establish a training relationship with the puppy. They need to build a bond early on and learn the rules from the family members.

I fostered one Lhasa apso puppy for 6 months last year. She did not potty train before she left my house to her adoptive home, despite using doggy diapers constantly, and many trips outside a day. She was absolutely adorable, but she was also HIGH energy, and did in fact need to run around and play a lot. She actually ran laps when I let her in the back yard. I'd also like to add, goldendoodles do require a good amount of exercise. Most puppies are high energy as well and often require a lot of exercise.

I agree with the previous commentors, that an older adult or senior dog would be ideal for a busy family. I find that the older dogs, and especially the seniors, love to just lay around or sleep all day, and do not get into things like younger dogs do. My senior boarding dogs are always the ones that aren't trying to chew things or get into trouble.

Also, instead of trying to adopt a specific breed, I recommend working with animal rescues and spending a lot of time talking to them about your preferences and lifestyle, while spending time with each dog individually. Fostering is a great way to do this as well. When I adopted my dog from the city shelter, he was cuddly and sweet at the shelter, but I did not get to spend much time with him there and the volunteers were too busy to get to know each dog completely. When I brought him home, he was a totally different dog. Did not like cuddles or sleeping in my bed and wanted his own space - at 14 weeks old! He still doesn't like cuddles much, two years later. Kennel environments cause dogs to act different due to stress, and it's hard to know the dogs true personality until there is one-on-one time with them.

I now will only adopt another dog after fostering the dog for ... (more)

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answered 2019-01-02 04:23:02 -0600

I agree with all that Deb said - she gave fantastic advice! That being said, if you have your hearts set on a puppy definitely talk to your local shelters and do some online research. Some dog sites have quizzes that can help you narrow down breeds that are a good match. Some you may not have thought about. If you do get a puppy, regardless of size, one of the most critical things you can do is get them socialized and trained as early as possible and be consistent with the training. If you're not going to be able to be consistent the training will likely not stick. I had one client with a hyper breed and she knew that she wouldn't be able to reinforce until he was about 5 months. I had him before his training and after, when she had involved the whole family - even the kids - in the training. The dog was still hyper by nature but such a great dog! He listened, he would calm down when needed, and is one of my favorite dogs. They are also a busy household. The key was that they knew what they were getting into and made the commitment to be consistent with training. Regarding letting them out to relieve themselves, most dogs can go 8 to even 12 hours without going to the bathroom. It's not ideal but it's possible. Depending on where you live you could do a doggy door or something, but if you are in an area where there is predators I'm with Deb that it's not a good idea. Your other option is to be very upfront with sitters that you're looking for someone who can help train your puppy. There are a few trainers in my area and might be in yours too on Rover. I'm sure they charge more for the training but it might be worth it. Good luck!

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