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How Do Dogs Choose Their Favorite Person?

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How Do Dogs Choose Their Favorite Person?

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By Elisabeth Geier

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Everybody wants to be the dog’s favorite! In short, it’s all about socialization, attention, positive association, and personality. But let’s get into the nitty-gritty details so you, too, can become your dog’s favorite person. Or, you know, in case you just want proof that you’re number one.

My dog loves me, but he loooooves my youngest brother, Jacob. It’s not even a contest: put my brother and me on opposite ends of a room, and Radar will always run to Jacob first. It’s funny and mystifying at the same time. After all, I’m the one who raised Radar and take care of him every day. I feed him, walk him, let him sleep on my bed…but when Jacob comes for a visit, it’s like I cease to exist.

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So sometimes, a dog’s favorite person is not always their primary caregiver. So how do dogs choose their favorite person? And is it possible to change their minds?

Of course, every dog is different, but some generalizations apply. Read on to learn all about how dogs choose their preferred people.

Socialization matters

Many dogs bond hardest to whoever cares for them during their key socialization period, which occurs between birth and six months. At this age, puppies’ brains are incredibly receptive, and their early social experiences influence them for the rest of their lives. That’s why it’s so important to ensure your puppy has positive interactions with a wide range of people, places, and things.

For example, dogs who aren’t exposed to people wearing hats may become afraid of hats later in life. I didn’t get Radar until he was six months old, so I don’t know exactly what his early socialization experiences were like. However, he tends to prefer men, which leads me to believe he had more positive, formative experience with male caretakers.

If your dog was already an adult when you adopted them, don’t worry: it’s not too late to become their favorite. While early experiences are important, continued socialization through experiences like doggy daycare, play dates, daily walks, and more matters a lot!

Attention (and affection) increases the bond

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Now, I’ve already disclosed the fact that my own dog prefers someone who isn’t their primary caregiver. But most dogs tend to bond to the person who gives them the most attention. For example, in a family with two parents and two kids, the dog may favor the parent who fills their bowl every morning and takes them for a walk every evening.

In addition, physical affection solidifies the bond between dog and person. If a person is stand-offish towards a dog, the dog will be stand-offish towards them. But if you give your dog plenty of pets, grooming sessions, massages, and love, they are likely to seek out more.

For some dogs, it’s not just the amount of attention and affection that matter, but the quality. My dog Radar spends most of his time with me, but I can be a bit reserved and strict about allowing 40 pounds of pitbull in my lap. My brother, on the other hand, is happy to roughhouse and let Radar crawl all over him. No wonder Radar does backflips (sometimes literally) whenever he sees Jacob.

Positive association is key

Beyond the attention of their favorite people, dogs play favorites depending on associations. In other words, when a person is the source of good stuff, the dog forms a bond.

When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Of course, a dog is going to love the person who always plays tug of war or gives them loads of their favorite stinky beef liver treat. They also know that the person who feeds them most often is a pretty important player in their lives!

On the flip side, dogs often react poorly to people with whom they have bad associations (you’ll never catch Radar making friends with a vet). Positive associations lead to positive dog-human relationships. You can use positive association to help in training and socializing your dog.

For example, whenever somebody new comes to my house, I have them meet the dogs in the yard and give them treats. This establishes an immediate positive association (new person = tasty treats) that helps ease the introduction.

Human personality and dog breed play a part

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Have you ever met a dog that looks and behaves a lot like their person? The saying “like attracts like” applies to dogs and people, too. Dogs often choose a favorite person who matches their own energy level and personality. I’ve certainly found that my more reserved, cautious dog is more closely bonded to me, while my more outgoing, boisterous dog is very attached to my more active brother.

In addition, some dog breeds are more likely to bond with a single person, making it more likely that their favorite person will be their only person. Breeds that tend to bond strongly to one person include:

  • Basenji
  • Greyhound
  • Shiba Inu
  • Cairn Terrier

For more on how dog breeds match to human personalities, check out our lists of the stubbornest dog breeds, the smartest dog breeds, the laziest dog breeds, and the best dog breeds for introverts.

How to become your dog’s favorite

If you have the feeling you’re not your dog’s favorite person, don’t despair. You can improve and increase the bond between you. The easiest (and most fun) way is to spend at least 30 minutes of focused, one-on-one time together each day. This doesn’t include walks, yard time, or watching TV together. Your bonding time should be active and focused.

Here are a few bonding activities to engage in with your dog:

  • Play fetch, tug, or hide and seek.
  • Have a training session. Working on new skills, or reinforcing old ones, is a great way to bond!
  • Try a sport like agility or flyball where you and your dog can work together as a team.

  • Food (in healthy, appropriate quantities) is love. Aim for wholesome protein sources with limited fillers, and try some homemade meals for your dog. Make mealtime a bonding activity by integrating eye contact.
  • Give your dog a grooming session or massage.

Bonding occurs naturally between dogs and the people who treat them well. Take good care of your dog, socialize him, give him positive experiences, and respect his unique personality. He’ll reward you with a lifetime of love (even if he sometimes acts more excited to see your brother).

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Elisabeth Geier

Elisabeth Geier is a writer, teacher, and animal advocate with extensive animal handling experience and a soft spot for bully breeds and big orange tabbies.

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